Wipe away those breakup rips because we’re going to explain to you that really love isn’t a lie! Recently we’ve got Autostraddle editor and all around symbol
Heather Hogan
speaking about the lady 11 year(!!) commitment together with her partner and all sorts of things overall connections.

But very first! We celebrate becoming reunited — after an eventful summertime! — and play a-game of guess the tv show through the fanfic.


SHOW RECORDS

+ if you are an A+ user, you can read
this huge crossover fanfic
that Autostraddle television Team together published,  including the Buffy/Faith/Nia Nal threesome I concocted.

+ One of the first pieces we published for Autostraddle was
this essay about period certainly one of

Fleabag.

+ One other reason is an A+ member: this
exclusive evaluate Heather and Stacy’s marriage!

+ i enjoy interaction but
as Vanessa detailed right here
you will find anything as extreme running.

+ if you like another explore my personal mindset that just because a connection ends doesn’t mean it wasn’t meaningful,
have a look at my personal favorite essay
I’ve actually ever created.



Heather:

We stayed the actual whole night, which can be only very from character for folks. And I think it actually was just, this really is indicative of one’s connection, i do believe, where it was just like, it is amazing. Why don’t we simply do the following point. This is so that fun. Let’s just do the next thing. And I believe thatis just already been precisely how our very own relationship’s been for like 11 decades. Each step recently already been like, “This component’s great. What is the the next thing we can easily do?” very, yeah.


Theme track plays


Drew:

Hi, I’m Drew.


Christina:

And I’m Christina.


Drew:

And introducing,

Hold off, Is It a romantic date?


Christina:


Hold off, Is It a Date?

is actually an Autostraddle podcast focused on the using up question: hold off, is this a date? Where Drew and I find all sorts of things about internet dating. What’s matchmaking, somethingn’t matchmaking. And extremely just have a grand adventure, I would say.


Drew:

I would personally additionally declare that it was a huge adventure so far and certainly will remain. My name is Drew Gregory. I’m a writer for Autostraddle and a filmmaker and a trans lesbian. And I want to have something new to add to the mix. We never can think of something brand-new. In my opinion those tend to be my personal identities.


Christina:

Sometimes identity doesn’t transform, despite just what TikTok will say to you.


Drew:

I Am Jewish.


Christina:

Yeah. I mean like—


Drew:

Type of. I am talking about, yeah. No, I am not spiritual, but that’s also part of my identity. It is possible to inform from my tresses.


Christina:

Withn’t changed however, perhaps.


Drew:

That I’m Jewish?


Christina:

Yeah. You’ve been Jewish.


Drew:

No, I Am Jewish. Yeah, that didn’t happen amongst the two episodes. Well, who will be you, Christina?


Christina:

I’m Christina. I am additionally an author at Autostraddle. A loud homosexual on the web. I am really getting excited about the regarding Princess Diana period, AKA cycle shorts and sweatshirts. That’s where I’m wanting to end up being. I am in Philadelphia, it is therefore 96 levels today. So we’re gradually getting truth be told there. It’s simply like i’d like it immediately. Its my personal ideal time. I want to be a primary character inside autumn, and it is maybe not happening however.


Drew:

Yeah. Well, what is interesting that you’re disclosing just now is, so for the audience, this has been weekly since all of our finally episode, which is what it constantly is actually. But for united states, we actually taped initial six attacks even as we happened to be discovering our very own vocals and building this new podcast. We taped that beforehand, however now we’re pretty recent. So this is like we’ve had a whole summer time. So we have not taped in months and in addition we’ve already been as much as all kinds of things


Christina:

Uncharted territory. The last time we taped, we’dn’t met. We have now came across face-to-face.


Drew:

That is correct! Yes!


Christina:

Drew was in my ding, dang house, merely chilling out.


Drew:

Yes!


Christina:

I would personally just wake-up and be want, “Well, seem, which is Drew over here.”


Drew:

So nice.


Christina:

It was truly delightful.


Drew:

You have these a beautiful residence.


Christina:

Thanks. It is a gay disorder residence and now we think it’s great extremely dearly. Yeah. So we’re merely on another trip and it’s really exciting is going on this endeavor with your listeners. Will we have anything else we wish to pontificate pertaining to before we become into our little game?


Drew:

I mean, I don’t know. I Experienced a large summertime, but I Assume circumstances should come right up while the attacks come-along, but…


Christina:

Yeah, I do not would like you to load all of it right in front.


Drew:

You do not need us to ruin anything?


Christina:

Yeah. Load almost everything in the front? My God, just what an awful phrase.


Drew:

It seemed a bit sexual, and I Truly had a lot more of a thought of love—


Christina:

It performed!


Drew:

I imagined more though that you were making Residence Depot and had been like getting into your car or truck, which I understand you do not have, but which was in addition where my personal mind is actually, that also might be sexual.


Christina:

I additionally just love that the thing which is keeping me personally from attending Home Depot is actually a car and not the person that i’m. Like everytime I’ve been at a house Depot, some one has-been like, “Ma’am have you been missing? Have you been safe right here?” And I also’m love, “No, frankly. Such lumber about. I am not safe.” Therefore I have actually a casino game for Drew because we love to perform games.


Drew:

I’m hearing.


Christina:

And that I determined, in both respect of me and our visitor, that this would be a little intro inside world of fanfic for Drew. Just what exactly We have done is actually i have taken five shows from Drew’s ideal Characters in tv list, I am also going to review you some tags from AO3’s fanfiction and you are clearly planning need guess which for the programs these labels are referring to. I’ll begin common, they are going to get more certain to your tv show even as we complement.


Drew:

Okay. I Recently involve some questions—


Christina:

Naturally you will do.


Drew:

Because I am not sure alot towards fanfic world. Thus every program provides terms being involving that show?


Christina:

Yes.


Drew:

That selection in specificity, i might envision?


Christina:

Yes. Yes, they actually do.


Drew:

Therefore should you decide wished to discover a show that had like, I don’t know, medieval times you can strike the medieval tag.


Christina:

We’ll declare that I didn’t get a hold of any medieval instances tags in virtually any of those programs. Like to view it.


Drew:

Well, that isn’t my style, but I happened to be only tossing anything out.


Christina:

Yes.


Drew:

Because i assume inside my head, I was like, oh, well, in case you are checking out fanfic, you are looking for indicates that have actually characters you prefer. But that is never the truth. Sometimes you are checking for a topic and then you can find out programs through the fanfic?


Christina:

You could potentially. That will be a strange solution to address fanfic since most men and women approach it knowing the ship obtained at heart. Then it is said, I want to review perhaps another market form of this fanfic. Probably I would like some harm convenience. Probably i would really like a slow burn. Maybe I just desire some upright smut. There are plenty of places where individuals go. After which additionally only added tags, letting you know the type of flavor and ambiance of this story. And now weare going to go taste and vibe. Because certainly ships gives it out and an alternate market just isn’t specially helpful per the tv show, therefore weare going to be certain for the show.


Drew:

Okay, cool. Let’s jump in it.


Christina:

Fine.


Drew:

Let’s learn with each other. Yeah.


Christina:

Fine. Your first one. We are going to start off with fictional politics, praise kink, abandonment dilemmas, extremely sluggish burn.


Drew:

Praise kink, political… imaginary politics?


Christina:

Imaginary politics, yes.


Drew:

Does that mean like politics which can be grounded when you look at the real-world, but they are fictional or entirely imaginary politics?


Christina:

We haven’t read the fic under consideration, but I’m presuming this means completely imaginary politics.


Drew:

Okay.


Christina:

We could continue.


Drew:

Yeah, keep working.


Christina:

Last misuse, harmed comfort, i want smooth what to stay and so do you realy. Hilarious tag. Just needed to read that certain.


Drew:

Okay, hold off. Maybe i ought to take a second and think about what my favorite programs tend to be. Okay. Because I’m wanting to think about the reveals that have actually politics inside them. Oh hold off, would it be

The L Term?


Christina:

This one is certainly not

The L Keyword.

No.


Drew:

For the reason that it comes with artificial politics.


Christina:

It can.


Drew:

Because Bette works for mayor. I’m not sure in the event that you just remember that ,.


Christina:

Oh, I do.


Drew:

Okay, let’s see. What other…

Vida

features politics.


Christina:


Vida

provides politics.


Drew:

Could it be

Vida?


Christina:

Unfortuitously,

Vida

doesn’t have any fanfics.


Drew:

Oh, what?


Christina:

I am aware. So individuals, can it.


Drew:

Men and women, access it that. I would study that fanfic.


Christina:

People, can it.


Drew:

Okay. Why don’t we see. The Other…


Christina:

I will keep working.


Drew:

Carry on. Yeah.


Christina:

Cat and mouse. Possessive behavior.


Drew:

Oh, oh,

Killing Eve.


Christina:

There you go.


Drew:

Cat and mouse got myself. Oh, praise kink. Yeah. Okay, it really is all clicking. It really is all pressing.


Christina:

Almost everything presses. Almost everything ticks. It had been also a challenge because I had locate types that have been certain adequate to the tv show, but also like, it might amaze you to understand there’s lots of praise kink circumstances online.


Drew:

Yeah.


Christina:

Like a bunch. Like a lot.


Drew:

It’s my opinion that. I adore our very own area.


Christina:

I know. One of these brilliant isn’t on the listing of favored television shows and/or preferred TV characters because a few of your favorite TV shows didn’t have fics, that was sad.


Drew:

Great.


Christina:

But this will be a tv show we’ve mentioned plenty and I also think you’ll get it.


Drew:

Okay.


Christina:

Sooner or later. This is certainly will be easy for you, I believe.


Drew:

Oh, Jesus. Stress.


Christina:

Male relationship. Mentally repressed.


Drew:


Looking?


Christina:

No.


Drew:


Ted Lasso?


Christina:

Yep. Yep.


Drew:

Like, just what reveals carry out we view with males? Okay, let us take to the homosexual any. Nope. Why don’t we take to the right one.


Christina:

Yeah, others one was going to end up being “team bonding” and I also was actually like, that’s a straightforward one. There is an easy one. All right. Let’s see. Canon fictional character passing, LGBTQ character of tone. There’s a tongue twister for you personally. Groups of choice. Mom girl commitment.


Drew:


Feel 8?


Christina:

No. in your neighborhood, i’d say. I would personally say for the reason that region.


Drew:


Pose?


Christina:

Yeah. Another one would end up being canon gender work, thus — okay, we’ve got two a lot more.


Drew:

Okay. Everyone loves it.


Christina:

Jealousy. I am scared for this subsequent episode because I do not trust the article writers. A literal label on this subject fic. Famous.


Drew:

Okay. I mean, Really don’t believe

Glee

is found on my personal record, but that is what I would 1st consider.


Christina:

It is not

Glee.

I really don’t imagine

Glee

was on many listings.


Drew:

It’s not.


Christina:

But amusing point. Ex-lovers to buddies back into fans trope, family members feels, friendship. An extended awaited reunion.


Drew:

Ex-lovers to pals back. So is this

The L phrase?


Christina:

Really

The L term.


Drew:

Okay. I happened to be like, ex-lovers to pals back again to ex… Yeah, the ex-lovers.


Christina:

The sad benefit of

The L phrase

fanfic may be the staggering amount of Bette Tina fanfic is just like, y’all require to…


Drew:

You are sure that, In my opinion we would have a justification to get involved with this afterwards. Which is just a little tease in regards to our main topic.


Christina:

All right. Angst.


Drew:

Okay.


Christina:

Bittersweet ending.


Drew:


Freaks and Geeks?


Christina:

Close — no, perhaps not close. Really don’t need to lie for you.


Drew:

I am not sure the reason why. I simply took a jab at anxiety and bittersweet ending. That is just sort of my thing.


Christina:

Yeah. That is correct. Which is best shown. Romance (extremely sad). That is in parentheses, the actual unfortunate.


Drew:

And it’s perhaps not

The Leftovers.


Christina:

It is not

The Leftovers.

I’m not planning to give this-


Drew:

Okay. I’m going to be capable of getting this. Thus angst.


Christina:

Mm-hmm (affirmative).


Drew:

Bittersweet closing.


Christina:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Romance parenthesis sad.


Drew:

Romance, extremely sad.


Christina:

Unresolved sexual tension.


Drew:

This might be all. This is simply me. This will be like every little thing. This could you should be such a thing.


Christina:

Yeah, thanks for visiting fanfic, babe.


Drew:

Ooh. I mean, wow. Exactly what a welcome.


Christina:

Pining is an additional one.


Drew:

Just how is it in the same household? Okay, wait, i’d like to think about demonstrates I love which can be gay and then have an angst. Pining.


Christina:

I will say this program isn’t gay.


Drew:

Oh.


Christina:

However it is a show that I know you like.


Drew:

Ooh.


Christina:

How would you like one which’s going to provide it with out?


Drew:

I Really Do think we need to log on to using podcast—


Christina:

I actually do.


Drew:

However, if it actually was just both you and i love chilling out as buddies, I would personally resemble, no, no, no, provide myself an one half time. But fine, give me the only.


Christina:

Blasphemy, religious injury.


Drew:


Fleabag.


Christina:

There really.


Drew:

Here really.

Fleabag

is a show that now that many crazy society around it’s gone out and it’s not like every one of these annoying people’s personalities, i am like, wonderful tv series.


Christina:

Yeah.


Drew:

Merely the program.


Christina:

Yeah.


Drew:

Exactly what the, fantastic tv plan. That was lots of fun. Thank you.


Christina:

Anytime.


Drew:

And I’d love to only generate a public service… No, that is not what it is. The same as a request to the people that Needs some

Vida

fanfic. I am going to read it. I don’t know which i would like that it is between. Possibly it may be, what’s it known as when it is like two… We performed this. We did this inside the television staff. We performed like a cross… what is the word for it? What’s it if it is like numerous programs?


Christina:

Yeah. Cross… Cross… That thing. I understand what you’re stating. I cannot consider the phrase. We can easily bring our guest in. I am aware they are aware the term.


Drew:

Okay. We will go into our major topic we are able to pull in the guest so her mind does not explode as she actually is attempting to tell us this phrase. Guest, do you want to present yourself?


Heather:

Yes. Hello, this is Heather Hogan. Im an Autostraddle writer and editor. And in most cases as I pay attention to this podcast, we perform along like it’s a-game program when y’all are doing your own games. It had been very hard for my situation are silent while this was actually occurring.


Christina:

I found myself like, this is certainly will be really fun, but it is additionally will be so hard for my situation for this and Heather just be hushed.


Heather:

Yeah. My favorite to date is, “which stated It: Drew or Sappho?”


Christina:

Thank-you.


Heather:

And I was genuinely cheering like I found myself on

The Purchase Price Is Right.

I happened to be want, “Christina, no it really is Drew! It Is Drew! It Really Is Drew! No, its Sappho!” You performed great. You probably didn’t even need my personal support at that video game.


Christina:

Re-listening to this one, I was love, well, damn I do know my pals slash I guess the text of Sappho.


Heather:

You did effectively.


Drew:

You crushed it. I additionally went through… to make certain the video game worked, I tried it on a few individuals. Some people who do know me much better than you will do, Christina, as well as all cannot do so. Thus I ended up being really impressed by you.


Christina:

Sounds like I’m a winner, which can be everything things.


Drew:

Heather, tell us exactly what that term is for our fanfiction.


Heather:

It’s just crossover.


Christina:

Its a crossover, yeah!


Drew:

Crossover! Oh, okay. Okay. I thought there is some extravagant phrase because of it. But anyways, if someone else really wants to compose

Vida

fanfic that is a crossover, it’s another thing that i enjoy. I would like to see a lot more of it. So the major topic recently just isn’t fanfic. It’s lasting interactions. Because, Heather, how much time have you been within current relationship?


Heather:

I’ve been using my partner for 11 many years.


Drew:

Oh, that’s such a long time.


Christina:

Drew, have you ever done any such thing regularly for 11 years? Because We definitely have not.


Drew:

No, not really gender. You will findn’t completed such a thing. Exactly what have We {done|completed|acco
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